Ever been to Dysfunction Junction?
It’s that place where our dysfunction becomes our function or the new normal.
Do you sometimes feel like chaos has become your daily state of mind…that ‘new normal’ I just mentioned?
Sometimes we tell a story that if we aren’t at full tilt crazy than we are lazy…and our perception of being ‘lazy’ lets the gremlins of Guilt and Judgment and Shame into the car. They fight over who gets to ride shotgun…and sometimes who gets to drive. If you let them, they will have you buckled up in the back seat, or worse tied up in the trunk with a gag.
Somedays it’s easy to wonder who is leading the charge. The circus gets of control, the monkeys are in charge and it has become a three rings shit show of epic proportions.
You are not alone.
More and more people are starting to notice the crazy is at a scary level, and they don’t even know where to start to change it. We have so many stories we tell around it, so many Jones to keep up with and compare ourselves to and not enough hours in the day to get to the bottom of the to do list that seems to get longer vs shorter.
I was there once too. It happens one layer at a time, little by little. You think you have got your arms around it and you are in complete control, until one day…you aren’t. You can’t even find the edges of it to get your arms back around it. The chaos and a life out of balance are controlling you.
There is a path to freedom, but first you have to clue in on what you want it to look like. Who do you want to be? How do you want to live? It is is not as easy as it sounds when life steals your normal. Sometimes you can’t even remember what it looks like anymore or who you used to be when life ran at a slower pace.
I was caught in the trap of life living me. I was miserable. I cried myself to sleep, cried myself to work, the bathroom at lunch, on the way to pick up kids, in the shower…where ever someone wasn’t looking. You see where I am going with all the tears? My health was declining. <Insert high blood sugar, thyroid problems, heartaches, headaches, back pain, weight gain, general anxiousness, crappy skin and hair and general bitchy demeanor here>. The side effects of stress and lack of fulfillment can amputate years from your life and your spirit.
I had to pull myself out of it for the sake of my health and my family. I had to set a better example for what life was about and what I wanted my daughters to emulate. I took steps to live with more freedom, more joy, more time and more purpose….best thing was there some fringe benefits too: better relationships and more money. Money can help with the freedom. Freedom leads to choice. Who doesn’t want some of those side effects?
Check out this tool I created for you here. I have created a 7 step system, The Balance Blueprint, to help you start to dig yourself out and avoid some of the pitfalls that befell me. Its FREE! The path to destruction is overwhelm. When we are overwhelmed we don’t know where to start and when we don’t know where to start we don’t take action. This keeps us stuck. This is your clear plan of action, one step at a time. I even offer you a free masterclass at the end. Check it out here!
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Drop your comments below and tell me about your biggest life balance challenge? What have you already tried?